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Do Not Fear Mistakes

Do Not Fear Mistakes

Do we actually stop to consider what constitutes a mistake?

A mistake is an act or judgement that is misguided or wrong ~ but what does it mean?

And, furthermore, do we come to regret our mistakes?

Mistakes usually come with some degree of pain, loss or struggle, that is unless we don’t give a crap about our actions and words. However, I believe that most people regret their mistakes but you know what? $hit happens. It’s called life and hopefully we learn from them so we don’t repeat them.

No matter who you are, just remember that people make mistakes. Mistakes are part of being human. We all fall down from time to time but it’s important to remember: it's not how you fall, it's how we get back up again.

Learning from failure can be the key to success, because when we mess up and get things wrong, we have to keep trying until we get them right, thus improving our skills and helping us to grow.

We may be tempted to ignore mistakes because, let’s face it, mistakes can be embarrassing.

Nobody wants to be criticised, laughed at or talked about. However, admitting to your mistakes rather than hiding them or blaming others will let others see that you are decent, honest, and humble, striving to be a better person.

Are there different types of mistakes? Oh YES!

First we have self-sabotage, when you knowingly and deliberately make a mistake because you want the consequences of the mistake to happen.

Is this impulsive or compulsive behaviour?


Are we drawing attention to us, or diverting attention away?

Is your true personality being exposed?

Alternatively, we have unintentional mistakes.

This happens when someone does not consciously make a mistake, perhaps by not paying attention, rushing, forgetting to do something or making a wrong or premature judgement ~ you get the picture?!

Why do people make mistakes?

Well, to begin with ~ we are ALL human. Annnnnd, here’s another NEWSFLASH for you ~ nobody is perfect! It is our so-called ‘imperfections’ which make us unique, so let’s embrace and accept them rather than criticise them. Look for the positive.

Sometimes mistakes happen because we’re going through a rough time.

Maybe we aren’t paying attention to what is going on around us.
Or we’re under peer-pressure and just trying to fit in.

Perhaps we are being forced into doing or saying something that we don’t want to.

Or we could be unsure of how things work and may want to proceed with caution ~ “fools rush in where angels fear to tread”.

Alternatively we could just be stubborn and proud, thinking that we know better and assuming that we know it all. That kind of arrogance can either work for you or against you, but remember ~ pride comes before a fall.

How can we learn from and move on from our mistakes?

  • Take accountability and acknowledge that you have made a mistake
  • Understand what went wrong so that you don’t repeat the mistake again
  • Find the lesson in it…your mistake is an opportunity to learn and develop
  • Be kind to yourself ~ remember that you’re thinking and agonising over it FAR more than anyone else!

Then ~ quite simply ~ LET IT GO & MOVE ON!

Do not fear mistakes ~ mistakes happen and life goes on.