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I will face the day with an open heart and an open mind

When I see this affirmation, it reminds me of people's negativity and unwillingness to find out about Reiki - they close their minds to the healing and spiritual possibilities it entails ~ “it’s strange, it’s weird, it’s hocus pocus, mythical, woo woo, holistic claptrap…performed by witches - and they burned witches at the stake” etc, etc, and it’s all because they won’t they open their minds and hearts to the unknown.

Some people don’t have self-love so they can't give love either and won’t accept it - this stagnates…they shut things off …they make fun…say you're weird, anything really, rather than try something different in the hope that it might actually do them good.

Open your mind…

I was recently shocked by my soccer mates…,thinking they’d poke fun and make sarcastic comments about my Reiki, however, I was completely surprised when they wanted to know what it was all about and the fact that they were really interested in learning about it. They brought up the subject first because they were curious.

Be curious ~ not judgemental

People would rather be negative, it’s easier to say things you know nothing about is a load of baloney rather than find out what it's all about and to give it a try.

What’s the harm in trying?

You don’t know until you try and in the grand scheme of things, who has the right to say it’s codswallop?

In life there is no single person who knows everything, and is appointed judge, jury and executioner.

Don’t judge a book by its cover - open it up and try reading, you might be surprised how quickly it piques your interest, draws you in, creating a thirst and desire to know more. There are libraries full of books, and an endless vault of them online, allowing you to broaden your horizons and open your mind.

Life has endless possibilities so try and explore different things. Step out of your comfort zone, dare to be different, become a “say YES to life” wo/man, stop saying NO…say yes and then MAYBE life will become a lot more fun and interesting.

First things first - you need to love and nurture yourself.

  • Look after yourself physically and mentally
  • Look good - feel good…eat well, feel well
  • Exercise your body, mind and soul

Body: Exercise - and NO, you don’t have to become a gym bunny! Just get out in the fresh air ~ walk, run, jog, swim, cycle, skip! Move your body. Get the blood and endorphins flowing!

Mind: Read, listen to music and podcasts; try different crafts and hobbies. Socialise and interact with others ~ join a team.

Soul: Book in some Reiki healing, spiritual healing. Try meditation or crystal healing. Practice gratitude. Be with nature. Be compassionate. Be grateful.

Do what makes you feel happy but remember to fix your own oxygen mask first because you can’t do anything or help others until you yourself are sorted.

Open your heart…

How can you love people who have hurt you, and are you prepared to forgive and forget?

Are you able to go through hurt again?

Are you able to put your heart on the line?

If people have hurt you in the heat of the moment, behaved badly and hurtful things have been said and done, how do you go about fixing the mess that’s been created, addressing the problems, sorting through the problems, and being prepared to forgive?

This requires sensitivity and acting like a grown up, instead of behaving like a spoiled brat who constantly wants their own way!

Try listening to other people's point of view and their opinions ~ everybody is entitled to their opinion whether you like it, agree with it or not.

Having the ability to admit to being wrong. Obviously, when you are in the wrong, just admit it - set aside your ego and pride - apologise, and move on. However, if you are not in the wrong, instead of escalating the argument to an all out screaming match leading to World War 3, try to diplomatically ‘agree to disagree’, then move on. Who needs that kind of toxicity and negativity in their life? Life really is too short.


There is only so much hurt and bad behaviour you can take off people before reaching breaking point.

  • How much can you forgive and forget?
  • When and where is that breaking point?
  • When are you past the point of no return?
  • When is it all too much?

Because in reality, there are some things which are unforgivable and unforgettable, so it is better to eliminate these people from your life and get on with your own life, without a backward glance.

By eliminating them, I don't mean hiring a hitman!!
What I mean is, stop seeing them, block them on social media, and cut all contact.

When you go through heartbreak it’s so easy to feel like you will never love again, however, life would be very lonely if we're not surrounded by people you love and who love you.

So how do you put your heart back on the line?

  • Surround yourself with friends and family, people who love and care about you.
  • Change your social life, give yourself options, and the chance to meet different friends.
  • Broaden your horizons by trying different hobbies, take a chance, a leap of faith and give things a go. You never know who you might meet on the journey.
  • Look at your past relationship as a learning curve. You now know what went wrong and how to prevent that from happening again.
  • Learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.

Life and love is a game of chance ~ the more you participate and play, the more likely you will win ~ REMEMBER: you’ve got to be in it to win it. Same as the lottery ~ unless you have a ticket you’re not going to have an opportunity to hit the jackpot!

Ask for advice ~ from friends, family, workmates, professionals, healers, counsellors ~ it’s always good to talk, to share and air your grievances and worries.

Welcome new people into your life, give them a chance, give them the benefit of the doubt and make sure to be positive and to think positively.

Remove the people who bring negativity to your life and welcome in those who bring positivity.

Open your heart and open your mind every day and live life to the full as the possibilities are endless.