April 2019

Menopausal Hotties - Sex and the city

The hottest topic in town: Menopausal Hotties...

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Sex and the city, don’t need no pity, let’s get down to the nitty-gritty!

If you’re worried that sex after the menopause is a no-go then think again.

Over the next few issues we will look at some of the challenges we may face and how these could impact upon us and our sex lives.

We’re all mature grown ups around here (present company excepted!) so let’s take a big, deep breath and talk candidly as we explore this topic from different viewpoints.

Real life examples and anecdotes, from real women, not just a medical book or website listing symptoms.

With advances in treatment, awareness and education, sex after the menopause is no longer considered the kiss of death to your sex-life as it once was. In fact, many women report that it can be quite the opposite, a possible resurrection, as you embrace your new confident ‘don’t-give-a-flying-fig’ hottie self.

Gosh, whisper it if you must, even connect with your new inner sex goddess! Think of Samantha Jones the 50+ year old sex siren from Sex And The City fame, or Carrie looking for Mr Big, so to speak…

Hotties - join us as we explore and delve a little further, including the good and not-so-good side of sex pre-, during or post-menopause. Don’t be worrying now, as there is a lot of good to outweigh the bad stuff.

Time for a new perspective hotties? Surely we’ve earned *that* right after all the changes our bodies and minds have gone through? Yes, you’re right hotties. It’s time to enjoy our new sense of freedom, new body, new mindset and discover a new-found self belief.

C’mon now, don’t be shy, let’s delve in deeper with our first topic.

Reportedly, between 50-70% of postmenopausal women shared that vaginal dryness is a major cause for lack of sex, drive and desire .

Vaginal dryness is associated with the drop in estrogen hormone levels. An unfortunate side effect which could cause thinning of the uterus walls and which could make penetrative sex a little more painful for some women than others.

Unfortunately, we can be embarrassed when it comes to talking openly about these issues. Well stuff that! It’s not taboo ladies. It’s a fact! Who wants to add blushing with embarrassment on top of their hot flushes?! It’s time to stand up and be counted, find your voice and be heard.

The Good News

You’re in your prime now, so there is no need to spend it in the desert. There is an oasis of treatments waiting for you to try: a variety of creams which can thicken the uterus wall, helping with moisture production, and many lubricants that can also help with friction or, better still, could form part of a new, enlightened and informed foreplay.. ooohhh errr!!

Is it time to experiment and take the opportunity to educate ourselves and your partner too? Who knows, you could even teach an old dog some new tricks; after all, we’ve had to totally re-educate ourselves as we go through this transition in discovering a ‘new you’, it’s only fair that they do their bit too, right?!

Someone needs to start this conversation. With our new found ‘no bull sh*t Sherlock’ attitude, we can be the driver of our own bus and sexual destiny!

Could more mean more?

No we’re not getting all Oliver Twist on you, tho if you’re into that kind of role play, who are we to judge…

Anyway, I digress. Apparently women have reported they have found an increase in libido once they had resolved or found a satisfactory solution to dryness they were happier with, quite possibly due to reducing the fear of pain.

It’s also been shown that the more frequent sex that we have, the more pelvic blood flow we generate, which can add to more moisture. But of course, we do need to feel good and comfortable.

Now remember hotties. This is an individual choice. Whatever you decide is right for you is totally the right choice. It’s your body which you’re in full control of.

We all know it’s good to talk. Don’t spare our blushes. Let’s share the love and don’t be shy to experiment.

We would love to hear your comments, hottie advice and tips.

Hotties united we stand!

Julie x

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