Debbie Buss - Surviving Christmas
Is life passing you by?
Hello I'm Debbie Buss. I am an Intuitive Healer and Spiritual Coach. My passion is working with women, helping them to get back into their forgotten bodies.
*Warning: This column contains strong language and adult content!
Surviving Christmas ~ one magical step at a time!
“I wish it could be Christmas every day!” This is one of my favourite songs; and I remember as a child wishing that it could be Christmas all the time!
The magic of putting up the Christmas tree, the time off school, and the Christmas films!
Do you have a favourite Christmas song or film?
I often think back to memories of a child, seeing all the aunties, uncles and grandparents, and my grandmother’s Christmas buffet. Often going home feeling so sick from eating all the Christmas sweets and the best part was having a Babycham drink with our Christmas meal, feeling so grown up!
Fast forward to becoming a mum and the whole pressure of making it the perfect Christmas, getting all the presents for the children and stressing if I couldn’t find that one toy that had been promised!
Sometimes the best thing about Christmas is the expectant build up. It’s hard not to let all the little things that make Christmas extra special pass you by in a blur of frantic present wrapping.
For some people they dread the holidays, of having to see family or friends that they don’t get along with. Having to sit around a table and play nice, when what you really want to do is get up and walk away!
Getting along with others entails understanding and respecting who they have become as a result of their environment, culture, and experience.
Finding some middle ground that allows the relationship to flourish while honoring the individuality of the other person can be hard, but for the sake of one day it can be as simple as saying, LET IT GO, LET IT GO!
For some, Christmas reminds them of how lonely they are, and it can be a sad time, whether it’s financially or the pressure of getting it ‘just right’, can take away the meaning of togetherness and sharing joy.
To make this your best Christmas ever sit back, put your weary over-shopped feet up and take a big sip of your favourite festive mocha - your state of mind and Christmas spirit will thank you for it.
The most important thing is for you and your family to have fun. That does not mean landing yourself in debt for the next 12 months by buying expensive gifts – just spending a bit of time together can be the best present. Remember, if something doesn’t quite go to plan, it really isn’t the end of the world.
Breathe: Inhale and stop for one moment and focus on what is important. Does it matter if you haven’t got the right present or the correct ingredients?
Park your perfectionism at the door: If you are losing sleep over the perfect Christmas, think about YOU first. We tend to forget about ourselves physically, mentally and emotionally.
Replenish: Think about your needs. Are you getting enough rest? drinking (not alcohol) enough water? Eating what you want but not overindulging; sit down, watch a Christmas film.
Be Present: So many people talk about mindfulness and being in the moment. You are the star of your own life. Don’t worry about other people’s opinions. Don’t make assumptions. Everyone is living their own story.
Know when to say NO: Ask yourself the question, and be honest, “How much is enough?” We not only eat and drink our own body weight at Christmas, but we can easily spend way beyond our means for that perfect day.
Embrace the magic of Christmas. Enjoy, have fun, laugh, cry, make peace with past resentments and hurts as they are only hurting you.
If you are not ready to forgive then LET IT GO, (there is a theme here), as your beliefs can make you ill.
Take responsibility for anything that you create: your beliefs and concepts may not change, but your happiness and health depend on making some serious choices about how and who you spend time with.
You can choose to live a life of feeling good, having lots of energy and not feeling victimised by everything.
It won’t happen overnight but make a promise to start today.
If you are responsible for cooking and hosting the Christmas Day activities, then don’t take it all upon yourself. Why not ask other family members to bring different parts of the meal, such as snacks, salads or desserts? Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You could even ask the children to help out. Make sure you have some time for YOU, even if it's just allowing yourself to watch one special TV show that you really want to see.
Christmas is the only time when we can truly delve into the depths of our imaginations and dream, believe it and feel it!
Give yourself permission to have fun, smile and share love and joy with others, you never know it may be more than one day that if you believe in the magic of Christmas then you believe in the magic of love and harmony and can apply it everyday!
I wish each and every one of you a Happy Christmas and Happy New Year! Here’s to a great 2020!
Lots of love
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