Debbie Buss - Trust in the Magic
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Hello I'm Debbie Buss. I am an Intuitive Healer and Spiritual Coach. My passion is working with women, helping them to get back into their forgotten bodies.
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Trust in the Magic
"To give up one’s very self - to think only of others - how to bring the greatest happiness to others - that is the true meaning of Christmas." The American Magazine volume 28 (1889).
I wanted to find out about the true meaning of Christmas, where it all started, and how we celebrate it in today’s society.
For the retail companies it starts around the end of September/early October, where summer’s adverts are replaced with images and ideas for the perfect Christmas, where parents feel the pressures to get the Insta-perfect Christmas tree and will watch every baking programme to make the Mary Berry Christmas cake.
The first recorded celebration of Christmas was in the year 336 A.D. 25th December. Gift exchanges became connected to a real and legendary figure called St Nicholas in the 4th Century in Lycia (a province of Asia). He was a charitable man who threw gifts into homes.
Fast forward to the thirteenth century where Christians added to the celebrations by singing Christmas carols. As for the Christmas trees, they were popular in Germany in the sixteenth century; when the German royal court came to England the Christmas trees came with them too.
The festive period, with its countless traditions and powerful imagery, has been captured in many books and films over the years. One of the most famous, and my particular favourite, is Charles Dickens’s novelette, 'A Christmas Carol', published in 1843. Without fail, I watch the 1970s film version every year.
For me Christmas is about the magic behind the story of Father Christmas, his reindeer Rudolph, and to see the wonder in children’s eyes. It doesn’t have to mean adding pressure to make everything perfect, to ‘spend spend spend’ and panic over the turkey and Christmas pud.
It is about looking out for one another, making time to see friends and family, and yes, it can be the dreaded annual encounter with a family member whom you don’t get along with, or missing our loved ones dearly.
Time vs Money
Spend time with your family and friends watching Christmas movies, baking seasonal treats, or even start a new tradition. You don’t need to spend a lot of money on decorations. Instead, spend wisely on a few things which are important to you and yours. More presence, less presents!
As with the decorations, you don’t need to spend a lot of money. Buy the children one main present; cut back on gifts for extended family and friends; stop feeling obligated to give everyone a gift - a simple handwritten card, with some meaningful words to someone who is having a hard time, this is a gift they can treasure.
Spend your money wisely and focus on the things which add value to your family and memories. You can still have a wonderful Christmas without breaking the bank.
You do not need to go to the office party out of obligation. Take the pressure off yourself. Arrange a lunch date in the new year and use the time to spend with family, instead of spending the day in bed with a hangover.
Rest and sleep
I can hear you shout “Sleep? Rest? are you joking?” As sensible and boring as this sounds, taking good care of yourself, getting plenty of rest, staying grounded and setting boundaries, WILL make a huge difference and help jolly along the festivities. Spending time and energy with those you care about and will make you appreciate yourself that little bit more, and it won’t seem like such hard work. You might find that you rather enjoy it...
Christmas is magical, moreso when seen through the eyes of children. Have fun, spend time with the children, leave work on time, the emails can wait until tomorrow. Make memories and tell those you care about, just how much they mean to you.
This is also a time of reflection, looking back over the last year. Celebrate every success - big wins and small wins. Especially the small ones. Align yourself with the highest good and intentions; trust in the magic of the world that is everywhere and in all things.
This Christmas Eve, leave out the mince pie for Santa and some carrots for Rudolph, as you never know what miracles will come your way.
Happy Christmas to each and everyone of you. I look forward to seeing you in 2019 which promises to be a year of action (instead of dreaming). Time to get to work.
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